{"id":16227,"date":"2026-04-05T11:33:24","date_gmt":"2026-04-05T09:33:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/petraam.com\/?p=16227"},"modified":"2026-08-30T15:51:38","modified_gmt":"2026-08-30T13:51:38","slug":"why-the-prom-of-the-son-of-a-wave-was-one-of-the-best-things-in-my-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/petraam.com\/en\/why-the-prom-of-the-son-of-a-wave-was-one-of-the-best-things-in-my-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Why was my son Val's prom one of the most beautiful evenings of my life?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My answer to this question is <strong>made up of three parts.<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>I IMAGINED IT WAS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL EVENING<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">From the first moment I opened my eyes at 5.00 a.m. that day, I imagined that it would be one of the most beautiful evenings of my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As part of my morning routine, I immediately wrote in my journal that I had already experienced one of the most beautiful evenings of my life. I wrote in the past tense \u2014 that we had enjoyed ourselves, that I connected beautifully with Val\u2019s dad and Lili, that I danced a lot, and that Val, because of all of this, had the perfect ending to his high school journey.\nAnd that\u2019s exactly how it turned out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The day unfolded very calmly despite the many obligations. Of course, I\u2019ll admit that panic tried to creep in at times \u2014 worries about how everything would go. And this is where my inner work came into play. Every time my mind tried to panic, I told myself:<em>: <strong>\u201cAha, I see you \u2014 you won\u2019t get me. Everything will be okay.\u201d\nThen I added a thought that truly works wonders: \u201cI have more than enough time for everything that matters today.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-1024x683.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16231\" srcset=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-1024x683.jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-300x200.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-768x512.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-1536x1024.jpg.webp 1536w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-18x12.jpg.webp 18w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241-600x400.jpg.webp 600w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0241.jpg 1800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>I WAS IN THE MOMENT<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my family, I\u2019m known for wanting to make the most of every moment of the day \u2014 that\u2019s my energetic land, and I love it. My husband, on the other hand, much prefers his relaxed land. Right away, we agreed that this time he would adapt and join me in my energetic land.\nThis was Val\u2019s day, and Val \u2014 like me \u2014 is very much a last-minute person. So I asked Gregor to follow my plan for the day. But behind this was a compromise Gregor suggested: when his daughter Lejla has her prom next month, we will all shift into the relaxed land and follow his schedule. That means leaving home earlier and being prepared well in advance \u2014 unlike this time, when on the evening before this important day, I still didn\u2019t know what I would wear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My opinion is that in a family no one should be above the others, in other words the boss, but we all live <strong>its <\/strong>life, <strong>we are wholes,<\/strong> but it is important that each one of us takes responsibility and adapts, because we are in a community, living under one roof, so <strong>Wholes living together.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&nbsp;And I can tell you this: I absolutely loved being in my energetic land. Everything flowed effortlessly, and one very important reason for that was that I was fully present \u2014 all day and all evening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-1024x683.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16232\" srcset=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-1024x683.jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-300x200.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-768x512.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-1536x1024.jpg.webp 1536w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-18x12.jpg.webp 18w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228-600x400.jpg.webp 600w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0228.jpg 1800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>I USED MEL ROBBINSON'S \u201cLET THEM\" THEORY<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There was one more key move I made that day. For the day to truly be beautiful, it wasn\u2019t enough to simply imagine it as the most beautiful evening or to stay present in the moment. What was also essential was letting go of the things I didn\u2019t like using the <strong>Let them<\/strong> and also applied the next step of this method, which is <strong>Let me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Examples from the scene<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gregor was a bit nervous when he arrived at the car park, because there were only 5 minutes to go and he shook off a bit of his nervousness in the car. At that moment I said <strong>Let him<\/strong>, it won't stop me from making this one of the best evenings of my life and the second step <strong>Let me <\/strong>now enjoy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Our daughter Lili isn\u2019t very fond of taking photos \u2014 I am. The moment we entered the hall, I was breathless at the sight of the beautiful venue. I immediately took out my phone and started taking photos. When I then saw Val with his dance partner, I said, \u201cLet\u2019s take a photo.\u201d\nLili gave me an annoyed look: \u201cMom, please don\u2019t start with the photos now.\u201d\nAnd that\u2019s when the method came in handy<strong> Let Lili<\/strong> complains, <strong>Let me<\/strong> organize the photo anyway.<br>In the end, it turned out to be a great decision \u2014 it\u2019s the only photo we have of Val with his dance partner, as she left right after the dancing part of the evening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Gregor and I love dancing, and we danced a lot. At one point, he didn\u2019t feel like going to the dance floor. I went over to Lili and Lejla \u2014 they didn\u2019t want to either. That didn\u2019t stop me, I used <strong>Let them sit. Let me go dance. <\/strong>I looked toward the dance floor, spotted Val\u2019s homeroom teacher dancing with the graduating students, joined them \u2014 and fully enjoyed myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">All three steps described above were the perfect recipe for creating one of the most beautiful evenings of my life. I know I will continue creating my most beautiful life this way, because:<strong>, THE BETTER IT GETS, THE BETTER IT GETS.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-683x1024.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-16228\" srcset=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-683x1024.jpg.webp 683w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-200x300.jpg.webp 200w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-768x1152.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-1024x1536.jpg.webp 1024w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-1365x2048.jpg.webp 1365w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-8x12.jpg.webp 8w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-600x900.jpg.webp 600w, https:\/\/petraam.com\/wp-content\/smush-webp\/2026\/04\/15x21__1-AKR_0251-scaled.jpg.webp 1707w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can find out more about my work <a href=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/en\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/petraam.com\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Photos by Studio 55, Rok Majheni\u010d s.p.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the simple answers to the question of why my son Val's prom was one of the best nights of my life is that I was a proud mother. 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